You are in fact worthy and enough for everything you desire, you just have to ‘reprogram’ yourself to believe it.Īffirmation: “I am enough. You were not put on this earth to play small. It is your birthright to have the life of your dreams. Here is a radical, counterintuitive thought: You are already deserving, just as you are. Given these facts, there is absolutely no reason why you, an empathic, compassionate human being, wouldn’t be worthy of what you desire. You’ve seen others with less credentials and expertise climb the corporate ladder with ease you’ve witnessed many who didn’t have to work as hard to be loved you’ve even seen selfish narcissists gain the adoration and approval of the people they manipulate and dupe. Did they do anything to “earn” their right to an ideal relationship? No! They simply believed they deserved it. If you’re still doubting your worthiness to manifest your desires, use what I call “reverse comparison.” Consider that you’ve seen people far less loving than you enjoy the relationship of their lives. This is a noble cause, but without moderating this desire, it can take over your life to the point of isolating you from those who could be compatible friends. In doing so, it tries to defend you ferociously. Maybe that inner part has been “burned” by people in the past – so it doesn’t allow you to consider the possibility of people who may want the best for you entering your life. For example, you may have an inner part that opposes your conscious desire for beautiful friendships with trustworthy people. Engage in a conversation with your inner parts to better uncover their origins and what they’re trying to achieve – even if they don’t make sense to you. Are they trying to protect you from something? Listen to their reasoning. Understand what these repressed parts are trying to tell you. Bringing them to the surface is the only way to heal them, understand how they came to be, and ultimately replace them with healthier beliefs. You have to go into the dark underworld of thoughts you don’t want to own. To fully examine these subconscious programs operating on autopilot, you can’t just work on the surface-level beliefs you think you have. Yet it’s more than possible to do so – whether that means through counseling, self-hypnosis, meditation, affirmations, healing bodywork or a combination of all these modalities. Addressing these self-sabotaging beliefs could mean working to undo years of childhood conditioning, societal expectations, as well as any harmful things said to you during your lifetime. You might believe you’re not worthy of a loving relationship or your dream career, yet actually, you are probably overqualified for both. Many of us carry around “not enough” myths. Here are three ways to own your “dark side” or “shadow self” overcome subconscious blocks and curb self-sabotage if you want to manifest the life of your dreams: The first shadow work lesson: You need to believe you are worthy of what you desire – and enough to “deserve it.” That’s why it’s so important to bring the shadow self to the surface, to perform the necessary inner work to create a dialogue between you and your “dark side” to create positive change. Because it is hidden, it can seep into our life, our beliefs, and everyday behavior in unexpected ways – sometimes even as protective defensive mechanisms meant to keep us from owning our full, unbridled power – hidden from the world or from potential scrutiny. The shadow self or subconscious does not know whether it’s sabotaging us or not, of course. Unfortunately, many of us do not know what is in our shadow - and these disowned parts may still be driving the show in creating our reality. Psychologist Carl Jung conceptualized our disowned parts, our “dark side” and repressed desires as “the shadow.” Yet most of us focus on what is already within our conscious awareness, rather than addressing the internal programs that are driving our everyday actions, to manifest our desires. It’s no surprise, then, that these hidden aspects of our personality have been hugely implicated in self-sabotaging behaviors. They contain some of the deep-seated belief systems and thoughts that we harbor beneath our conscious awareness, usually rooted in and stemming from childhood. By Shahida Arabi Updated JShadow Self And Shadow Work, ExplainedĪccording to some experts, our subconscious and unconscious (or shadow self) drive a good portion of our behavior.

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